Bullied due to your sleep problem?

Does anyone else get bullied because people assume they're on drugs? Anyone else been discriminated at work or pushed out of social groups for being tired?

Posted 7 Feb 2013 at 5:31 PM
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  • Sleepio Member

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    My employer wanted to start disciplining me for being late. For a while the docs thought I had sleep apnea and my work was okay to make allowances for my lateness as this was considered a disability. But when sleep apnea was ruled out my employer changed their tune and started saying I had to get in on time even though then knew full well I still had a sleep problem. Eventually I joined a union and went to a new occupational health doctor who confirmed that I had chronic insomnia, which is also considered a disability. It really opened my eyes to my employers and the good thing to come out it is that I'm nowhere near as commited to my job as I used to be and I don't fret about things that go on at work. If things go wrong at work it's not my problem and I leave all the stressing to the management now.

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    Good for you to sort yourself out in this way. I would guess that your employer had to make sure that you weren't being idle, and also setting a bad example to everyone else. Fellow workers may not have understood either.

    I'm glad your employer now has a reason to give you leeway when you are not well.
    And you have union and occupational health backing. Hooray!

    I had to push to go the an occupational health doctor when I had ME as well.
    My employer was wonderful and ignored my problems, but the work wasn't getting done. I ended up organizing limited hours and cover for me, so the work was done and I wasn't worried.

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    How do you get diagnosed with chronic insomnia?

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    Have you got a decent GP in your practice? Write out your sleep diary and take it to them, or take a laptop – that should demonstrate the extent of the problem. But you do have to pick the right one; in ours there's one you want to avoid unless your leg is hanging off – she's scornful of anything that isn't physical. If you don't know, you could try talking to the receptionists. When my old sympathetic GP retired I asked them about the batch of newbies and they recommended a real star. He mentioned this course to me about the same time I saw it mentioned in the press.

  • Sleepio Member

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    That’s great advice from katecelyn. My first GP told me my insomnia was because of how my brain was “wired up” and that I should just get used to it! My mom recommended her GP to me and he’s been very supportive and seems to know a lot more about CBT methods for insomnia. I think you have to have had insomnia for around 4 weeks for it be diagnosed as chronic

    There is some usefull advice on insomnia and work on this website.

    http://www.insomniacs.co.uk/work-issues-insomnia.html

  • Sleepio Member

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    I've had a hard time with gps. Some have been very rude and of no help at all. When my sleep started ruining my life my dream refused to give me sleeping tablets. I believe 12 years ago if he had of given them to me I'd have been okay.

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    Don't know about that rich. May be you be well addicted by now. Some of us here have been on pills for30 years. They don't solve anything.
    Must say if my gp was rude to me I would be out of there.

  • Sleepio Member

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    i guess you're right. I just think it might have stopped me getting to this point. I've had 3 gps being rude to me. One was laughing as i told her how bad things were. I was in a very bad way.

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    So has no one else been bullied at work or social situations for being tired or as they percieve “on drugs”

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    I've never been bullied in social situations but my insomnia has made a huge impact on how I interact with people. Sometimes I can become quite anti social and quiet and can appear very moody or scatty. I've had insomnia for around 10 years so I've learned to hide it well for most of the time, especially around people I don't know so well. Quite often though, I won't even bother to go out or socialise and I've lost contact with a lot of friends and missed out on a lot which is what gets to me the most.

    So what has been your experiences then richrich?

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    Would you necessarily know in a work environment, I dont think most employers and colleagues would actually come out and accuse you of being on drugs? I was sidelined and eventually made redundant at work. At that time insomnia was not diagnosed, it wasn't until after that and I started sleepio and kept a sleep diary I realised how bad it was.

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